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Thoughts on COVID-19 and how to navigate difficult times

This is an email I sent yesterday to my list. It’s also a long one so grab a cuppa and settle in. I hope it helps.

I probably see the world differently to many people. I’ve spent decades working on my own personal and spiritual development and I’m a lifelong learner who likes to study facts.

I tread a sometimes confusing path between the esoteric and the scientific – as I’ve mentioned before, I don’t think they are that different.

During any “disaster” I like to study extremes of thought – from the overtly “scientific” where people ridicule and dismiss anything that cannot be proven by science to the “whacky tin-foil hat” conspiracy theories.

I believe there is an element of truth in everything and an element of un-truth in everything too.

I believe that none of us will ever really KNOW – I mean you’ve only got to touch the surface of quantum theory to question everything we think we know about the universe.

That said one thing I know for sure is our mind is one of the most powerful tools we have at our disposal and THE most important thing for everyone is to keep it FREE.

I believe we can and do have the power to create our own reality.

People often think creating your own reality means we can manifest a Ferrari in the drive by sitting on a hill and visualising – or in the current situation a pile of loo roll on our doorstep perhaps.

I don’t think it means that at all.

When we talk about reality, it’s different for everyone. My reality is different from your reality – even if we are placed in the same situation.

We might believe “the virus” is natural, we might believe it is manufactured, we might believe it’s a government plot, we might believe it’s from people eating bat soup. We might even believe it doesn’t exist at all.

At this stage its irrelevant. Nobody truly KNOWS.

What is relevant is how we choose to react and use the information presented to us regardless of whether we believe it or not.

At the two extreme ends of the spectrum…..

We can choose to see a virus that has the potential to kill a percentage of the world’s population and go into panic – fighting for our own survival against all others over that last bottle of hand sanitiser (which is only out of stock because of just in time supply chains and people panic buying more than they would usually)

OR

We can choose to ignore everything and go about our lives as if nothing has changed.

I propose that neither is helpful regardless of our own reality – there is a middle ground.

There is something you may have heard of called confirmation bias – we will always find the proof that supports our own beliefs. This is even more true now in the age of algorithms and curated newsfeeds.

We always think we are right because it’s easy to find information to support what we think is truth.

Everyone is different – so we will see, look for and believe different things. We will react in different ways. It’s not wrong, it is human nature and is supported by A.I feeding us what it thinks we want to see.

What if we got over our own ego and need to be right and just helped to make the world a better place instead?

Here’s what I suggest

That we choose to remain calm, and take sensible precautions to protect ourselves, our loved ones, our communities and the world at large without causing harm and adding to the burden on the systems we currently have in place (or lack thereof).

That we stop looking for someone to blame.

That we take care of our minds and bodies, help others less fortunate than ourselves, create healthy habits and boost our immune systems. Practice good personal and public hygiene – wash your hands, don’t sneeze on people and stay home if you are unwell. All things we should be doing anyway.

And in these uncertain times take extra precautions just in case.

So regardless of what the TRUTH really is it doesn’t matter.

If we do these things, we will come out the other side with (hopefully) a better world and a new reality.

We can choose to see chaos or an opportunity for change.

We have co-created a culture where people are encouraged to pop a pill and power on through regardless. Maybe that will stop.

I hope so.

Maybe this will allow people to slow down and step off the relentless hamster wheel that our societies have created.

I hope so.

Perhaps this will give people the opportunity to reassess what’s important and what is not.

I hope so.

With any form of change comes fear and that is going to be the biggest danger. Some of us have been doing this work for a long time and are prepared.

Most of the population is not.

This is not a time for smugness or shaming.

It is not a time for telling people who think differently that they are wrong (even if you think they are) whatever end of the spectrum they fall on.

It is a time for kindness and understanding that people deal with fear in different ways depending on their personalities and life situations.

Some will be in denial, some will be in extreme anxiety, and some will be treading various paths between the two.

For those who have low levels of anxiety and see things differently, it is time to help those who are afraid to feel ok and safe and able to navigate their experience.

It is not the time to shame them and call them sheeple or roll your eyes and stay in your bubble.

For those with high anxiety, do everything you can to manage your own wellbeing and try not to let your fear cause panic to others however hard that feels right now.

I believe the way we create our own reality is by choosing how we to react to events, however bad they seem at the time.

We might not be able to change the events but we can choose how we react.

That, in turn, affects how we behave and that has a ripple effect that goes out into the world.

Your fear and panic will have wider reaching effects that just those you come into immediate contact with AND your calmness, groundedness and practical action will have the same.

It is NOT about being an ostrich and ignoring what is going on.

It is by holding ourselves in a state of high vibration and holding out our hands to others to pull them out of their fear and into our vortex.

It is by helping people stay grounded and calm.

Its by staying out of fear yourself and helping others to do the same.

For those who have communities and followings

It is about stepping up and into your power as a leader of that community, however small to help those who are not as well equipped to deal with chaos as you might be.

It is time for you to walk your talk NOT add to the noise and confusion.

And it is definitely not the time to use people’s fear as a marketing opportunity.

It doesn’t matter what you believe about the “reality” of the situation. We can co-create whatever we put our minds to if we stay out of “fight or flight” and help others to do the same.

I’m not saying it’s easy

AND I realise I speak from a position of privilege – I have worked hard over the years to create my reality this way because I know I can’t help people change theirs if I’m stuck in the chaos and turmoil myself.

I’ve created a life that allows me to live in the middle of a field and work from home if I need to. I’m surrounded by nature and can detach from the noise and get grounded quickly. I know not everyone can do that.

So, I’m here to help if I can.

I’ve tried to keep this post as clear as possible and please do let me know if you want me to explain or delve into anything further.

I’ll be sharing some more posts soon on the things we can all do to navigate these challenging times from wherever we are with the tools we have.

Karen

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